Jim Ramsey gave this talk which is labelled in the book we were given: A practical guide for husbands. Why this talk is called ‘Tin Shed Time’, and not just billed as another seminar is beyond me – at any rate, I think this talk had the most post-talk conversation and action. Probably because it was far less theoretical in nature than the other talks.
Let’s Run a Rescue Operation
- Family first…
- Before Jesus
- God made maleness and femaleness
- Family was there – be it people/tribe/clan/house
- The father’s line was used to follow the geneaology
- Genesis
- Women became part of the man’s family and not vice-versa
- Patricentrism
- Father is at the centre
- We won’t understand marriage apart from Jesus – Mark 10:6-9
- Jesus teaches we are male and female
- There is a difference (and it’s not just the plumbing)
- We won’t understand Jesus apart from the cross – Mark 10:45
- Jesus didn’t come to be a martyr for a cause, rather he came to pay our ransom
- His death becomes the standard men have to have our marriage role meet
- We won’t understand marriage apart from the cross –
- verses 5:25-33 need to be placed in the context set by the rest of Ephesians
Ephesians… then Eph 5:25-33
- Men are to accept Jesus died for me to be forgiven, he is committed to us with no qualification – Faithful
- We have to love our wives sacrificially
- Men protect wives
- Wives protect kids
- To be unfaithful to our wives while relying on Jesus’ faithfulness is sheer, rank hypocrisy!
Colossians… then Colossians 3:19
- Submitting should be initiated by the woman
- It is not commanded by the husband
- It’s a command from God to wives
- It’s hard for wives to submit when their husbands are:
- indecisive
- moody
- childish
- demeaning
- not willing to pray
- etc…
1 Peter… then 1 Peter 3:19
- God won’t hear our prayers unless we are considerate
- (hmmm… this sounded right in context, but on it’s own sounds wrong – read the verse I guess)
- …at this point, the speaker pretty much stopped following the notes and talked about the problem that pornography presents to women.
Pornography
- This is a huge problem for men, and the temptation is huge. It’s everywhere in our current society.
- If you decide you are going to stop looking at porn: do something about it RIGHT NOW! – ring someone or talk to someone, and get them to keep you accountable. Otherwise you won’t stop, and will put it off and it will come back to haunt you.
- Pornography hurts your wife because she will think that when you make love to her you will be thinking about what you have been watching.
- Don’t!
At around this time, Jim started talking about adultery and how it is basically courtship – you don’t just jump in bed with another woman (usually), but rather it builds up from a friendship. He asked:
‘If you were to commit adultery, who would it be with?’
He then said that if you have a name come into your head in the next second or two, you are very probably in big trouble! Talk to someone about it right now, and do something to stop it – change jobs if you have to.
One final note, a quote at some point came out: “Foreplay starts at breakfast”, to which someone replied “It’ll be the longest day of your life”.
But worth it.
RodeoClown: wants to be a great leader.